The New Honeymoon Rules: The How-To Guide for a Happy Honeymoon
Let’s face it – there is a lot more to planning your honeymoon than simply waving a wand, choosing your destination and booking your flights. Unless you have a honeymoon planner on board, you should know the honeymoon rules.
Stop for a moment and think about the length of your trip
Spending quality time together to kick off your marriage is certainly important, but too much time can be as bad as too little. Think about how long you usually spend away on vacation and use it as a guide; if planning a three or four-week honeymoon seems excessive, well – listen to that.
Is it time for a Honeymoon rules expectation adjustment?
Today, many couples plan their honeymoon to take place long after their wedding date. Consider, for example, the history of the very word “honeymoon” – “honey” signifies the sweetness of a new marriage, while “moon” refers to the relatively short time that sweetness lasts.
It should come as no surprise, then, that delaying a honeymoon may mean when you do venture out on your honeymoon adventure, the “honey” phase may have been replaced by something altogether different. After all, nothing lasts forever, right?
The good news is that, while the honeymoon phase is fleeting, the next phase – one of established, shared rhythms and partnership will be longer lasting.
Still, no matter how long you have been together, a honeymoon is a kind of symbolic milestone, almost-but-not-quite as important as the wedding.
But just like the wedding, the honeymoon comes with built-in stresses and cultural conventions: a persistent pressure to have the “best possible” time to be spent in a state of nirvana-like rapture.
Give yourself permission to let go of this pressure and learn to think of your honeymoon as some relaxing time away together.
Who needs honeymoon rules, anyway?
Whether you realize it now or not, you will be inundated with well-meaning advice from friends and family. Some will tell you to stay away from your phone and social media – yet we disagree.
Sure, enjoy your time together, but we believe in balance in all things, and shuttering your social interactions while away just doesn’t make sense today.
Create some space for yourself
Sure, a honeymoon is best spent together, but carve out some time for yourself as well. While your spouse is being pampered at the spa, go for a walk or read a good book.
Plan to spend your time on activities you both enjoy – separately and together.
Spend time talking about your vision
Sure, we have all seen the movies; images of newly married couples walking arm in arm through airports with all the most stylish luggage, coiffed hair, and gleaming smiles. But before you take off to the airport on your honeymoon, spend some time talking through your actual ideas and perceptions.
Sure, you will have time for the perfect honeymoon outfit and utterly fabulous hair, but know that this is the person you are spending the rest of your life with and not a Hollywood movie.
Honeymoon rules go out the window when you just relax and focus on having fun and being in love.
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