Unbreakable Rules Everyone Should Follow In A New Marriage
Yeah, it's pretty clear - we love to love, right? At the same time, no matter how in love you are, a committed relationship can pose severe problems sometimes. The only sure thing in love is that it doesn't come with a handbook (although many have tried). But don't worry - that's where we come in with our unbreakable rules everyone should follow in a new marriage!
Discuss Major Purchases
Many of our couples are devoted to their shared finances, but others are just as committed to maintaining separate bank accounts. In the end, though, how you divide your savings, expenses, and income is entirely up to you.
That being said, any major purchase (think anything above and beyond standard day-to-day purchases) should be discussed and agreed upon.
These discussions are not about asking for permission; rather, use it as an opportunity to discuss the impact of the purchase and your budget. Keep in mind most arguments are based on personal finances, so keep it calm and relaxed.
Keep Private Matters, Well...Private
While your BFF and mom probably know you the best, they don't necessarily need to know everything. If you have been married for any amount of time, you likely have had a disagreement about something. Whatever relationship struggles you or your partner consider private should remain private. A good rule of thumb is to ask if you would think twice before sharing something - err on the side of caution.
Relationship experts will often tell you that small white lies are harmful or helpful to your relationship, we think lying to your partner is never acceptable. Sure, there will be times in your life that you will be tempted to lie - and for the best of reasons. At those times, remember that love is stronger than any other bond. Whatever is going on, going through it together is far better than lying about something to your partner. Lying destroys trust; if you don't have a basis in trust in your marriage, it could be headed for trouble.
It is a safe bet that someone once said compromise is the basis of a happy marriage - and if not, someone certainly should have said it. Let's face the facts, folks - it is simply not possible for two individuals to be on the same page every day for years on end. You can't always have your way, but then again, neither can your partner.
Assumptions are the cornerstone of arguments, so avoid assumptions at all costs. Healthy communication is the heart and soul of marriage; when you assume, you are not communicating. Instead of jumping to conclusions and forming assumptions, try talking to your partner. Clarify your perspectives and feelings and move forward with knowledge instead of assumptions.